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(William) Patrick Stayner of Toronto, Ontario, passed away peacefully on May 28, 2026, surrounded by family at the home of his daughter Susan and Randy where he lived. Pat was born on June 26, 1937, in Toronto, Ontario, to William and Marie Stayner.
He was predeceased by his beloved first wife, Joan Stayner, with whom he shared 37 years and raised their five daughters. He was also predeceased by many cherished family members and friends. Pat is survived by his wife Ludmila Semeniva Stayner. Pat is survived by his daughters, Janice, Susan, Deborah, Lisa, Renee as well as his many grandchildren and great-grandchildren. He is also survived by his brothers, Paul Stayner (Audrey), Martin Stayner, and Jeff (Teri) Gibbens, affectionately known as his "bro", nieces and nephews.
Pat was a highly respected financial investor whose insight, integrity, and thoughtful guidance earned the trust of many throughout his life. He took great pride in helping others achieve their goals and was always willing to share his knowledge and experience. Known for his practical advice and words of wisdom, Pat left a lasting impression on countless friends, colleagues, and family members who benefited from his guidance and generosity.
Pat was a devoted Christian whose faith was an important part of his life, naming his boat Romans 10:9. Pat had a passion for sailing and for many years lived and sailed in Victoria BC, discovering great restaurants overlooking the water. He enjoyed good food and sharing meals with family and friends.
Throughout his life, Pat had a well-known love of sweets, especially cookies and ice cream. In his more recent years, he developed a particular fondness for a Frosty from Wendy's, and he couldn't leave the house without an initial stop at Tim Hortons for an Ice Capp. These simple pleasures brought him great happiness and became part of the charm that family and friends will always remember.
In his final years, Pat was surrounded by love and support in Castleton, Ontario. With dogs by his side he spent many happy days arm wrestling his grandchildren, fishing by the pond and watching the boats at the Cobourg Marina. These moments brought him great happiness and will be remembered fondly by all who knew him.
A Celebration of Life will be held at MacCoubrey Funeral Home on June 26 at 11:30am at 30 King St E. K9A 1K7 (905-372-5132). A fitting tribute on what would have been Pat's 89th birthday. Pat will be laid to rest beside his beloved first wife, Joan Stayner, at Royal Oak Burial Park in Victoria, British Columbia.
He will be deeply missed and lovingly remembered by his family and friends.
I can't remember a time when Pat and Joan were not part of my life. As a teenager babysitting my nieces, the family gatherings, their many moves to new homes and provinces as his career took off. Later during a hard time for me, they let me live with them for a few months. In the evening Pat would read a passage from the Bible that had particular meaning to him and explain why it was important to understand. His council and mentorship helped me move forward with my life. When my mother passed, they brought my dad and I out to Victoria. We went sailing on Romans 10:9, spending time with dad helping him through a very difficult time. When Joan passed Pat immediately took on the role of care giver, mentor and loving son to my dad. Pat called him "His Jim". He called dad every day no matter where he was in the world and would talk for an hour. He brought him out to Victoria multiple times, stayed at his house in Johnstown and provided him with anything he needed. Pat did all this for 6 years before my dad passed at 89! I believe he added years to my dad's life, all given out of love and respect. After dad passed in 2002 Pat and I would talk once a month. He would offer me advice on fitness, update me on his investments and most important where to find the best double chocolate cake! Rest in peace my brother! I will miss our talks, your wry sense of humour, your advice and your friendship. Your "Bro" Jeff Gibbens
I was fortunate to know Pat not just as a client, but as a true friend for more than 20 years. Over that time, I came to know a man of kindness, honesty, and unwavering principles. He had a quiet way about him—never flashy or interested in impressing anyone. Even though he could have shopped anywhere, he was just as happy browsing Walmart as any luxury store and would proudly show me what he bought for $9.99. His humility was one of the many things that made him so special. Some of my favourite memories are the lunches we shared at his favourite restaurant. He would insist that I sit in the big wingback chair and, with a big smile, tell the waitress to bring me a litre of wine—even though he never drank himself. It was his way of making others feel welcome and cared for. He was generous, not because of what he had, but because of who he was. He loved to walk, to talk, and to connect with people. He found joy in simple things and in good company. His friendship was a gift, and I will always be grateful for the laughter, conversations, and quiet lessons he shared just by the way he lived his life. He was a genuinely good man, and the world is a little less bright without him. I will miss him deeply and will always carry his memory with me. B.